HOW TO FIX ALL RELATIONSHIPS

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Hi, this is Adam from Wanderings.

Today I have a post on a hot topic that I get asked about a lot.

You are feeling a disconnect in your relationships. A lack of respect. You are accidentally pushing people away. And it is affecting your self esteem.

Some of the biggest things that my clients ask about are how to stop a break-up, or how to get somebody back that already left.

Another issue that comes up is a lack of respect from your boss or coworkers.

This is all about improving relationships with somebody who needs us less than we need them.

The root of all of these conflicts is regaining your power.

It starts with the global problem of how you see yourself.

Since we project our own feelings on others, bad feelings can really affects your relationships.

So fixing that starts with fixing yourself. Living a better life in every way.

That is the inner to outer approach. We fix ourselves, and this radiates outwards.

But there is another way that we must implement immediately and simultaneously.

Changing our externals, our behavior, will gain for us respect and better results.

Every interaction is a chance at regaining self.

It all boils down to the most important question you must ask yourself.

It is very simple:

"Will this action bring me more respect in my eyes, and in the eyes of the other person?"

Before any text, email, conversation, or meeting, you must always ask yourself: am I presenting myself with respect.

Because love only comes through respect.

Connections only come from respect.

Nobody wants to have as a partner in business, or love or anything else,

with somebody that they see as small or pitiable.

You must always have a level of respect.

There's a great story regarding this in the Talmud. It starts when a pauper goes

before a king. This pauper needs a loan for his farm, and he comes from far away.

He's emaciated, his clothes are dirty and torn up. Maybe his sandals are falling off.

Anyhow, he comes before the king. Do you think the king is going to give

him the time of day? Most likely the king won't even meet him, the guards will just throw

him out.

Even if he does meet the king, because the king is especially gracious. Maybe the king has pity on him and give him a few copper pieces and then sends him on his way.

Why would the king want to invest in this guy?

But lets say the petitioner is one of the king's ministers. Its a totally different story.

He shows up wearing beautiful clothes, and he knows how to speak the language of the king. He is prepared in advance, he's well groomed, fit and confident. He shows that he's got what to offer.

For sure the king is going to want to give that person that opportunity. The king feels good just interacting with this minister!

So why are you chasing after people?

Leaving one text after another? Really?

Why are you begging and love bombing?

Could you do anything else to make yourself more sad and unattractive?

You might as well kick yourself in the groin.

Smart people just leave a message for someone and then wait for them to get back. One message is enough.

That's true, and that's part of this teaching.

But even better is that you leave the message, and you don't wait.

Your life is full of abundance, you got things to do and other people to meet.

You don't need to chase after anybody, you can let them come to you.

And they will, when they are ready, in their time.

So, before any interaction that you have, with anybody when you want to build love

or connection, or peace,

You must always be coming from a place of respect.

A place of strength!

Remember that the best negotiating position, is the ability to walk away.

It's fine to want a situation, want a person,

want a business connection.

It's not attractive to need any of those things.

So again, before any interaction,

you must ask yourself:

"Does this interaction bring me respect in my eyes, and in the eyes of the other person?"

One simple question answered properly will give you HUGE results.

Thank you. This is Adam with Wanderings.

You can connect with me for a free consultation for therapy and coaching.

Adammichlaw@gmail.com. 416-720-9300.

Looking forward to hearing from you.