thoughts on personal growth

Remember “Opposite Day” as a kid? Where “yes” meant “no,” “no” meant “yes,” and you were basically allowed to be chaotic on purpose? Turns out, Opposite Day is one of the most effective adult life skills we accidentally left behind. In therapy, we call it “Opposite Action”, but let’s be honest, “Opposite Day for Adults” sounds way more fun and way less clinical. And here’s the twist: it works not because it’s emotional or deep, but because it keeps you from getting bossed aro

You’ve written the message three times. You reread it, edit the emoji, and hover over “send.”Then once you finally send it you start replaying every word. Sound familiar? This is the before-and-after loop  of social anxiety: the overthinking that happens before you speak, and the self-criticism that follows after. For many people who identify as people pleasers, this pattern isn’t about vanity it’s about wanting to feel safe in connection. Before: The Anxiety of Anticipation